Ever notice how one little thing someone said to you or did, or something you said or should have said, sticks with you? All day, all night and into the next day. Other times, it rides along in your mind for years, or it comes back like a dark cloud scudding across the face of the sun when you see the person involved. That small incident, one that probably no one else even noticed, possesses you, dampening your joy.
Do you suppose that you are the only one who has these moments? That always happy “Betty” is able to let them go, or even better, never notices in the first place? What does it take to shrug them off? I don’t know, because I have never been very successful!
Recently though, I’ve considered the fact that I am spending way too much time worrying about mostly imagined slights. The selfishness is overwhelming. What right do I have to make myself so important? And why is it so impossible to forgive?
Maybe that’s the key – instead of spending the whole night churning through what I should have said or what my friend meant by her comment, I should focus on forgiving myself for whatever I imagine I did to instigate the comment. Or, on giving thanks to God for all the gifts of my life.
If you find yourself dwelling on the small incidents of your life that bother you, remember Jesus’ words to Martha, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things; one thing is needful.” And that thing is to focus on Him!